First things first. To understand RLT…

Just forget everything you know about traditional therapy.

Okay, so how is it different?

In traditional couples therapy the therapist is trained to listen and– in a very gentle manner– guide the couple towards some other destination that has not been defined. RLT is different in that the coach/ counselor/ therapist acts as a third leg and– with great compassion and understanding– actively guides their clients out of old thinking and behaviors into a better understanding of each other’s needs. It disrupts the status quo in a way that therapy cannot.

The first step to healing your relationships is to begin to heal yourself.

We are all carrying baggage that holds us back in improving our relationships. Everything we experienced as children–from caregivers, family, friends, enemies– has developed into a default-mode communication style. Some of those things we learned can be helpful and useful in life, but others can be the hidden traps that keep us from being happy.

Through acting and reacting in new ways you enable different reactions from your most important people.

We often spend so much time and effort trying to change the people around us but what if your hardwired reactions directly feed into their hardwired reactions? Through the act of changing ourselves we can actually change the relationship in ways that demands and arguments cannot.

Some things that will change for you through learning RLT:

You will argue differently
You will listen more
You will actually *hear* other perspectives
You will understand your triggers and develop strategies to deal with them
You will be more kind and understanding
You will be less confrontational and more honest about what you need

Relational Life Therapy will help you create better relationships.

Uncover negative beliefs are holding you back

Have a better relationship with yourself

Let go of shame and resentment

Become a better listener– and ‘hearer’ too

Learn to give– and receive– useful feedback

Stop always needing to be right

Eliminate destructive tendencies with your loved ones

Stop displaying toxic levels of self-expression

The journey to a better relationship can begin here.

RLT works quickly to redefine how we think and relate to ourselves and to each other.

1.

Waking Up

RLT therapists use loving confrontation to wake clients up to their negative behaviors in a direct but compassionate way. We show clients the difficult truths about how they are harming their relationships in a way that builds trust rather than resistance.

2.

Healing Transformation

Swiftly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand them, and overcome them. Unique to RLT, deep trauma and inner child work is done in the presence of the partner. This allows individuals to go deeper and couples to grow closer.

3.

Relational Skills for Life

RLT equips people with the powerful tools they need to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after their time in therapy is over—the key to creating change that lasts.

This content © 2024 Relational Life Institute.

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Dramatic change. Fast results. Lifetime skills.

RLT delivers where traditional therapy often fails.

Lasting Change

Traditional therapy heals through nurture, but this isn’t enough for permanent change. RLT goes even further, equipping people with the lifelong relational skills they need for lasting change.

Swift Results

Letting therapy drag on can be detrimental to clients, especially those in crisis. RLT uses a powerful combination of techniques to quickly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand where they came from, and teach individuals how to change them.

Dramatic Transformations

The idea that character is fixed is outdated. Character is changeable, and through RLT, we can teach people to transform negative beliefs and behaviors, often dramatically and sometimes immediately.

Healing Trauma in the Partner’s Presence

In traditional therapy, trauma work is done individually. But opening up such levels of vulnerability in their partner’s presence helps people go much deeper for more remarkable transformations.

Tackling Shame and Grandiosity

Modern therapy often focuses on bringing people up from shame. RLT is concerned with both shame and grandiosity to help couples achieve healthy levels of self-esteem—working with both is necessary for relationships and individuals to heal.

Radical Honesty

We don’t shy away from directly but compassionately telling clients what they’re doing to harm their relationships. We tell them what to do in certain situations so they can have a corrective emotional experience with their partner over and over.

We Take Sides

Often, therapists remain neutral, never siding with one partner. But relationships are rarely 50/50, so in RLT, we explicitly side with the disempowered partner to restore balance in the relationship.

Therapists and Clients Are Equal

In RLT, therapists aren’t above clients as experts, nor are we simply facilitators. We’re right there in the thick of it with them, sharing our own experiences of relational living to inspire, motivate, and build trust.

Are you ready to try something different?
Let’s talk.

First things first. To understand RLT…

Just forget everything you know about traditional therapy.

Okay, so how is it different?

The first step to healing your relationships is to begin to heal yourself.

Through acting and reacting in new ways you enable different reactions from your most important people.

Some things that will change for you through learning RLT:

Relational Life Therapy will help you create better relationships.

Uncover negative beliefs are holding you back

Have a better relationship with yourself

Let go of shame and resentment

Become a better listener– and ‘hearer’ too

Learn to give– and receive– useful feedback

Stop always needing to be right

Eliminate destructive tendencies with your loved ones

Stop displaying toxic levels of self-expression

The journey to a better relationship can begin here.

1.

Waking Up

RLT therapists use loving confrontation to wake clients up to their negative behaviors in a direct but compassionate way. We show clients the difficult truths about how they are harming their relationships in a way that builds trust rather than resistance.

2.

Healing Transformation

Swiftly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand them, and overcome them. Unique to RLT, deep trauma and inner child work is done in the presence of the partner. This allows individuals to go deeper and couples to grow closer.

3.

Relational Skills for Life

RLT equips people with the powerful tools they need to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after their time in therapy is over—the key to creating change that lasts.

This content © 2024 Relational Life Institute.

Are you ready to try something different? Let’s talk.

Dramatic change. Fast results. Lifetime skills.

Lasting Change

Traditional therapy heals through nurture, but this isn’t enough for permanent change. RLT goes even further, equipping people with the lifelong relational skills they need for lasting change.

Swift Results

Letting therapy drag on can be detrimental to clients, especially those in crisis. RLT uses a powerful combination of techniques to quickly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand where they came from, and teach individuals how to change them.

Dramatic Transformations

The idea that character is fixed is outdated. Character is changeable, and through RLT, we can teach people to transform negative beliefs and behaviors, often dramatically and sometimes immediately.

Healing Trauma in the Partner’s Presence

In traditional therapy, trauma work is done individually. But opening up such levels of vulnerability in their partner’s presence helps people go much deeper for more remarkable transformations.

Tackling Shame and Grandiosity

Modern therapy often focuses on bringing people up from shame. RLT is concerned with both shame and grandiosity to help couples achieve healthy levels of self-esteem—working with both is necessary for relationships and individuals to heal.

Radical Honesty

We don’t shy away from directly but compassionately telling clients what they’re doing to harm their relationships. We tell them what to do in certain situations so they can have a corrective emotional experience with their partner over and over.

We Take Sides

Often, therapists remain neutral, never siding with one partner. But relationships are rarely 50/50, so in RLT, we explicitly side with the disempowered partner to restore balance in the relationship.

Therapists and Clients Are Equal

In RLT, therapists aren’t above clients as experts, nor are we simply facilitators. We’re right there in the thick of it with them, sharing our own experiences of relational living to inspire, motivate, and build trust.

This content © 2024 Relational Life Institute.

Are you ready to try something different? Let’s talk.

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